lundi 20 juillet 2015

The most important factor for the success of friends with benefits dating

Not everyone has the time or energy that is required to build and maintain a serious relationship. It's hard work. And then there's the commitment thing. It's a little scary, isn't it?
Let's face it, dating can be a real drag. Trying to figure out if you like each other - those awkward moments where you can't decide what you want to say. And dating is expensive too! Who needs it?
Sounds like you need to look into what I call, "Friends with benefits dating."
So how can I do with friends with benefits dating?

find a friend with benefits dating

The first step to finding a friend with benefits as a mature woman is to embrace yourself and be proud of who you are. Be proud of the fact you have life experiences behind you and that you have a mature attitude to life. These are some of the qualities that men are attracted to.


And he will. A man like this will up his ante the minute you back off. He will show up at your doorstep. He will call you. He will try to belittle you, he will call you crazy, he will get angry, he will try to make your life a hell until you start sleeping with him again and being his friend.
You're going to have to be very, very strong and tell him this:
"I feel so bad, so vulnerable, so lost and sad. I feel like I haven't taken care of myself. I can't handle seeing you. It feels too bad. I can't be your friend, and I don't want to be your friend until I no longer feel attached to you. So please don't call me again, or come over."
If he doesn't get the message and you feel threatened in any way, you must call the police.
I know this is going to be very hard for you, but you can do it. The reason why it's so difficult is because when we're involved with a man like this, he becomes an addiction. So you have to treat him like any other drug - stay away from him. Yes, you'll feel miserable at first. But you must do everything you can to stay focused on yourself, your friends, and your life.
This means I'm going to ask you to do something you'll probably wince at. I want you to date a lot of men. That's right.

Make clear and honest agreements.

We cannot understate the importance of making agreements with your friend. Be open and upfront about what you want and don't pretend that you're okay with a specific arrangement when you're really not okay with it.
Try to promote an environment of honesty and clarity. Perhaps your first agreement with your friend is that you both will be absolutely honest with one another about what you want for this relationship (that neither of you may call a relationship). Make it the policy for you both to only say "yes" when you truly mean it.

Cover all of the bases that you can think of.

For example, Are there "rules" about who can initiate sex? What are each of your expectations about how much time you might spend together? Is this a secret or will you let others know about your sexual relationship (if it comes up)? If one of you is dating someone else, how will you each handle that? Will you practice safe sex and use protection?
These issues may not be ones that seem important to you, so think about what your biggest concerns and questions are and then talk about them. Come to some mutual understandings so that you can avoid confusion and conflicting assumptions. If you aren't sure what your friend wants during the conversation, ask him or her to "Please tell me more about that...."

Find the right woman or men. Not anyone are looking for a relationship; relationships take a lot of care. There are a number of women who have other things going on in their lives who don't want to take the time and effort to have a relationship with all the entanglements that go with it. Look for a woman who is really into her career, into studying, or is really passionate about something else besides a boyfriend. If they state "I don't want a boyfriend right now", that's all the better.

Vincent Arnault

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Hello everyone I am Vincent and this website is created for those girls and boy who want to get perfect relationship. I also suffered from those painful feelings of breakup and I know how terrible it feels when you don't have the support and love of man that you love most. If you are also suffering from this feelings then you can get help from this guide and find out how find and make a good relationship. Additionally, in this guide on how to make a good relationship you will discover my secret strategy that I used to save and make a long relationship work. I encourage you to read this guide on homepage and follow it step by step to get a good relationship. If you are having some questions about your relationship then you can send them to me using contact us form and I will do my best to contact you as soon as possible.